THERAPY IS A PARTNERSHIP

I am a certified EMDR therapist with over a decade of experience. I work with adolescents and adults struggling with everything from depression to relationship issues to eating disorders. I have a particular expertise in addiction treatment: both individuals struggling with substance abuse and their family members and loved ones. In addition, as a former corporate attorney, I bring a personal familiarity to questions of career transitions and identity.

I graduated from Dartmouth College, received my JD from NYU School of Law, my MSW from Yeshiva University, and completed my post-graduate training in psychoanalysis at the National Institute for the Psychotherapies.

I offer both in-person and virtual sessions, work with people of all backgrounds, sexual orientations and gender identities, and always do my best to create an open and nonjudgmental space for exploration. My pronouns are she/her.

HOW I WORK

I believe that what happens when we’re children is the lens through which we experience our place in the world and our relationships with others. Understanding yesterday is the first step to changing today. In order to facilitate that change, I combine EMDR, Internal Family Systems, and psychodynamic therapy.

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is designed to help individuals process and heal from traumatic or distressing experiences. It uses guided eye movements to activate the brain’s natural adaptive information processing system, helping clients reprocess painful memories so that they become less emotionally charged. Through this process, EMDR can shift deeply rooted negative belief systems—such as “I’m not safe” or “I’m not good enough”—into more balanced, empowering perspectives.

Internal Family Systems (IFS) helps individuals understand and heal the different parts of themselves. These parts can include protective roles, wounded inner children, and reactive emotions—each with its own perspective and purpose. Rather than viewing any part as a problem, IFS recognizes that each has a positive intention, even if its strategies are no longer helpful. This approach helps clients access their core Self—a calm, curious, and confident inner leader—who can guide the healing and integration of these parts.

Psychodynamic therapy is a type of talk therapy that helps people understand how their past experiences, especially from childhood, influence their current thoughts, feelings, and behavior.

SESSION FEES

My fee is $250 per session. I am not in-network with any insurance companies, but will provide all documentation needed for reimbursement if you have out-of-network mental health benefits.

THERAPY FOR SUBSTANCE ABUSE

Whether you want to get sober or want to develop a healthier relationship to marijuana/alcohol, I am here.

At its foundation, substance abuse starts as an attempt to feel safe. Unfortunately, what might help avoid distress in the short term can cause longterm complications. Lasting change requires both understanding the root causes behind substance use and developing new ways of dealing with challenging emotions.

I have worked in settings ranging from hospital chemical dependency units, to outpatient substance abuse clinics, to my own private practice. I have led addiction recovery groups and counseled families in crisis. Through these diverse experiences, I learned evidence-based treatment techniques based on the models of both harm reduction and abstinence. I have a deep understanding of how addiction shapes family and relationship patterns and a wide breadth of knowledge about 12-step groups and other resources.

Recovery isn’t just about stopping using. It’s about building a meaningful life. Together, we’ll help you do that.

THERAPY FOR ADOLESCENTS

A DIFFICULT AND TRANSFORMATIVE TIME OF LIFE

It’s hard being a teenager, needing to balance the pressures of school, parents, friends and dating, all while trying to figure out who you are.

If your child is struggling with anxiety, depression, substance abuse, or issues with friends or bullying, I’m here to help. I will work with your child in a nonjudgmental, supportive environment, helping them not only better understand themselves, but also build coping mechanisms that will serve them long into the future. Growing up is never going to be easy, but with skillful support, your child will be able to manage it.

THERAPY FOR TRAUMA

Trauma can come in many forms, from one-time events like accidents to ongoing situations like childhood abuse and domestic violence.

Trauma isn’t just about what happened; it’s also about how your mind and body responded to it. Trauma is processed differently by the brain because it activates the body’s survival response. This can lead to fragmented or distorted memories, difficulty regulating emotions, and a heightened sense of threat—even long after the danger has passed.

We can never undo what has happened, but we can change its impact on you today. I use evidence-based modalities proven to help trauma survivors heal and always endeavor to do so in a sensitive, non-judgmental, and empathetic environment.

REACH OUT TO GET STARTED

hilary.wolkoff@gmail.com

347-640-3713